Love

From the greatest of what we were created on (creation base), if it ends, our lives may be gone with, this is love. If we overthink in love, we will find that all of us love ourselves, b
ut if we were excessively loved by ourselves, eventually, we are going to be selfish. Now, let’s study more about love types, and how each one affects our life, let’s get started.

Love was grouped into some types, from these types are the following:

1. Selfless Love (Agape)

The greatest type of all types of love, that doesn’t exist in our lives, nowadays, that the giver of it give it without waiting for the returning love.

 

2. Affectionate Love (Philia)

In this type of love, we find equal love coming and going to both parties, also it has to be a deep relationship to have like this type of love. This type of love is most common among close friends, as well that between siblings.

 

3. Enduring Love (Pragma)

This is that type of love that had to be wisely taken, that unmatured brains can never take, that this type of love lasts for long periods, that’s recommended to be taken when the person is fully emotionally matured. Also, it’s sure it can never be named “falling in love” or “love at the first sight”.

 

4. Romantic Love (Eros)

Simply, this type of love expresses the love of the outer look, the love of how the body looks like, that can never last for a long time, also it’s followed by sexual love to the opposite sex, and the only way to express this love or to show it is just by touching the other party. That means that this type of love is not real love, this is just temporary love, some people may include it under “love at first sight”.

 

5. Playful Love (Ludus)

This type of love is just like that flirtatious love, that mostly doesn’t commit to anything, also it may be the start of that long deep relationship, also it may be that passion toward things, such as, dancing laughing, enjoying, and so on.

 

6. Self-Love (Philautia)

That type of love is a must to keep the person alive, actually, no one can live without self-love, self-love is not harmful by itself, but in these excessive cases of using it may be turned into narcissism, everyone needs self-love to live a healthy life, otherwise, this person may be living without emotions and passion, also may lose the love he is giving to his closest people.

 

To have a balanced life, to save his rights, to be satisfied for what he does in his life, to admit his sins and wrong decisions, he has to be in love with himself, that person who loves others, surely, he first loved his self.

 

Love yourself to live a life full of successes and observed progress, you are responsible for that self inside you, no one will make you love it, except you.

 

7. Family Love (Storge)

This is the true love between parents and sons (our nature love), as that love between the mother and her toddler, this is that love that forgives without long-time thinking, also, this is the love of the sacrifice.

 

This type is built on deep emotional love, we all need this type of love when we are toddlers, teenagers, and young adults to be living a fully balanced life.

 

Tips for the correct love cases:

1. To make use of every type as it is, we should use each one in its proper place and time, for instance, romantic love shouldn’t be used except in a few cases (official relationship), otherwise, this will be the wrong way for love.

 

2. Self-love is that love that the person gives to him or herself, but this shouldn’t happen that the person exaggerates in giving it to himself for the sake of spoiling him, giving this type of love boost its position and importance, excessive self-love ruins the person, that may turn the person into a narcissist.

 

3. Affectionate love should never be turned into another type, otherwise, this will be happening in the wrong way, except in that case of changing the base the relationship was built on.

 

4. Honesty, honesty is among the main traits that should be in both parties, this lets the relation last for long periods, in most cases those parties are in enduring love.

 

5. When to pass mistakes to others (your partner) and when to say: “That’s enough.”, actually, passing mistakes does not last forever, for sure it’s limited, although it’s needed to make the relation lasts for a long period, both parties should have this trait, each relation have obstacles but the good partners can pass those obstacles, eventually there is no wise person can accept a mistake forever.

 

When do we pass mistakes?

Actually, this is bounded by three boundaries, time, intense, and repetition:

 

Time

From this aspect, time is not unlimited, otherwise, the other party may break the line between both, in case he felt that the other party is careless about his or her mistakes toward the other one, that means that the other party can take an action when he feels that the other one going on his way of mistakes without taking in consideration his or her mistakes.

 

Intensity

And about this aspect, the intensity of any mistake is specified by the affected party, and then the action is chosen by that party.

 

Repetition

The repetition makes the person more mistaken than how he was, so as a person who do mistakes, try to reduce these cases that might push you to do those mistakes.

 

Five Languages of Love

Expressing love is not constant for all people, for sure it’s different from one to one, there is a type of people who like to listen to good words, compliments, and so on, another type may like to spend time with the other person to express his or her love, let’s explore those 5 types, that you will definitely be using one, let’s get started:

1. Words of affirmation

Users of this type like to listen (and say) words that interest them internally, through beautiful words, compliments, or even words that are expressing love directly (for example “I love you.” or “I admire you.”), as well as, this is not just about spoken words, but can be in written words, using traditional methods like letters, papers, also the modern methods, as social media do.

 

2. Quality time

Users of quality time language of love, always like to stay with whom he or she loves and to spend as much time as he or she can, but this time is conditioned to be a long time with deep relation that moves their relation forward, that means that nobody interrupts their quality time.

 

3. Acts of service

About the users of this type are always giving the helping hand, they do things for whom they love, as an example, they may finish a work project for whom they love to show their love, they believe in that quote “Love is not words, it’s actions.”.

 

4. Receiving gifts

Who uses this language try to present gifts to whom they love, for love expressing, they like presents so much, that they give it so much, as they like it when somebody brings them some gift, as any gift may surprise them, and make them happy?

 

5. Physical touch

Those people like to show their love by touch, they like to hold hands as a sign of love, kissing, hugging and so on, also this is clearly shown between the mother and the child, and in another well known, clear way between lovers.

 

All those languages are expressing love, every person uses two languages maybe, or more, but there is a clear one, for everyone, if you could find it, so then this is your primary love language.

 

Love was shown in our created nature since we all were toddlers when we felt passion and love toward our parents (especially mother).

Use this trait (love), God created us with, in its proper place, don’t waste it, this is a highly valued treasure inside every human.